Nik00117

Ok let me describe to you my parents first off.

My moms a nurse, my dads a higher ranking military man. My dad is very good with money and knows how to manage it. So money problems for them isn't an issue.

Now let me decrsibe you, I expect my parents to give me the neccessarties, well still in highschool, which are clothes (i'm not picky, in fact my only requirement for clothes is male clothing, that fits, brand name, style i'm indifferent) food at home (they give this) school supplies.

Now recently school started here is what I basically got
A book pack (this wasn't a must, but more a want) cost about 50 USD
The following are needs accoridng to my school not me.

Binder, Notebooks, pens pencils, TI 84 Calc

Now my parents want me to pay for it all, which rounds out to by about 200 USD, on top of paying for clothes. I don't think this is right... I'm still in Highschool, yes I work but thats spending cash. I never ask for cash for things like gas, food, and anything else basically.

In fact the only real thing my parents spent on me is 500 dollars for a course to get me to graduation on time (since I moved from a low requirement grad school to a high mid way through HS meaning I gotta do extra worK) and that is only a discount in the end. Basically A get its for free, anything under a A I gotta pay that % up to 100% like if I get a 83% in the end I have to pay 17% of the class. I agreed to this.

How I don't feel its right for them to be forcing me to buy clothes (which I'm not picky about), or school supplies which my school has demanded I buy.

On top of all of this, the German gov since I am a German Citizen gives my mom roughly 150 euros A MONTH as long as i'm in school. Shes collecting a lot of $$$ from the gov which is meant to be for the exact things which I mention, school, clothes (it also helps pay for insurance)

So in the end do you think its right for my parents to be demanding that I pay for things which are required? Remember here i'm asking for clothes, school supplies, not drinking money, food money, party mony computer money and so forth. Just simply want the necceasties of life provided as long as i'm HS.

Its not like i'm some kid wanting his parents to pay for everything, not like a lot of my friends whose parents fill their tanks, buy their cars and pay their insurance.

In fact after HS me and my dad have agreed that I should pay rent or move out. Which I think is acceptable, therefore we've agreed on 200 USD a month, for this I live here as I do now. Expect clothes, and so forth are not provided for me.

What do yall think? Do you think the necceasties as of this moment such as clothes, and school supplies should be paid for? Even thougH i work... (I don't make much money working either, just enough to save a bit and pay for my daily activities)

mimo2005

That 500 dollars course is a monthly fee or one time fee ?
You father wants you clearly to be independant and count only on yourself from your post .

manic

Your parents put a roof over your head, they have fed you, and taken
care of you your whole life. Maybe they are trying to instill in you a
little more responsibilty of taking care of yourself. This will help you
when you go out on your own, because mommy and daddy may not
be there to help you. This is a growing thing, and I think your parents
are doing what they think is right. You will learn to appreciate things
more if you have to buy them.
As far as how much money your parents make.
That is none of your business, imho, or concern.
Take care, good luck in school.
p.s. Germany is a real beautiful place, was there in the early 70's
would love to go back some day.....

ebackhus

I wanted to attend a private high school. My parents gladly shelled for tuition, supplies, clothing, and most everything else. If there was something more I wanted I had to pay for it myself.

Nik00117

That fee is a one time fee, pay it once and never pay it again. If i don't do well in the class I pay it. So far i'm doing very well (avg is a 89)

And to manaic, I am responbile. How many kids do you know that REFUSED to let their parents but themsevles a car? As in said "Buy me a car, and i'ma give it away" type deal.

Comtrad

You have a job. They are preparing you when they kick your needy *** out of the house.

Nik00117

I feel i'm far more prepared then the avg kid my age.

I play 90% of my own bills, merely asking for things like clothes, school supplies. And Clothes I"M NOT EVEN PICKY.

PanamaGal

Sometimes the motives of parents aren't fully understood until one actually becomes a parent him/herself.

Tumbleweed36

Perhaps it is time to sit down with them and work out a share buying with them. You buy some things (like trousers, shirts) and they buy some things (like shoes, coat, etc.). This might work and both of you are winners because you are being more responsible and they are giving you an extra boost.

Nik00117

I REFUSED to accept a car, gas money, and insurnance from them...

I asked for clothes, and school supplies

How many kids would refuse to LET I MEAN ALLOW their parents pay for 4,500 of things, yet ask for about 150-200 dollars for school, and then some for clothes.

My mom is given 150 euros each and every month for this purpose, to buy school supplies and clothes, I mean come on i'm asking for the necceaties nothing more.

I refused a car, insurance and gas because I wanted to PAY for it MYSELF, myself is implying, well myself.

Tumbleweed36

I don't mean this to be a condemnation of you my friend, but you need to learn the fine art of compromise. Otherwise, if you could get them to pay for part, that is better than where you are now.

They may have reasons that you don't know about. For example, when my oldest boy finished high school, we started making him pay $150 per month (quite some years ago) for room and board, although we helped him with other expenses. He hated this and was very beligerant about it. He got to the point that he resented it so much that we would ask him to pay this. What he didn't know, was that we had no intention of keeping that money and when he left home after college, we gave him back EVERY penny that he paid us.

He was so pleased and felt badly because of the way he acted through those years. We had saved it solely for that purpose (never had any intention to keep his money for room and board) and he was a better person from having to take on that responsibility himself. Just make sure you know the facts before you criticize.

He learned responsibility and how to manage money. Today, we are very proud, because he is a superviser of tax auditors for a state government. The goal was met to teach him to be responsible.

Nik00117

You said when your eldest boy finished highschool...

Well guess what, I haven't finished yet. I'm still in school, I don't work enough to pay all my bills.

I am in my senior year, I fully expect to pay for rent, and baord and so forth AFTER highschool, I also expect to pay for everything besides meals cooked at this house AFTER highschool.

I do not feel its right for my parents to DEMAND that I pay for things for my senior year, school related materials which my school has mandated.

I did manage to get the moeny for the school supplies from them, however my mom is still going on about how I should buy my own clothes, thing is I HAVE NO TIME to even shop for clothes, little alone the $$$. Now I may get a response "ah your teenager you got time" well ok you work 70 hour weeks, on top of doing homework and maintaing a social life. I'm sure we've all done it at some point and i'm sure everyone understands its not easy.

All I ask from my folks until I finish HS is I get the neccessaties provided, this includes clothes, and anything school related.

Simple as that.