The TSF Lonely Hearts Thread...

[hempknight]

@ JtP

i am in no position to say anything since i havent even had my first kiss yet..but maybe what you and EB crave is the memories and time you spent with your ex / girl next door?

true the relation is broken now..but you still care for that person becuase of what you have been thru together??

that's my understanding of it anyway..

[Deckard]

It's really hard to explain; you'll understand when it happens to you.

[JohnthePilot]

Originally Posted by Deckard

It's really hard to explain; you'll understand when it happens to you.

That sums it up pretty well.

[sinclair_tm]

Originally Posted by Deckard

It's really hard to explain; you'll understand when it happens to you.

AMEN

[hempknight]

WOW?! who would have known that TSF actually contained so many lonely hearts??

BTW: Deck..whats with the melancholy tone there?? i thought you were set with that girl already??

[Deckard]

My melancholy tone is because I've lost this particular girl before (even let her go, which was hard to do), but she's not the only one I've lost. Furthermore, I am not 100% sure she feels the same way about me anyway. I think she does, but I'm generally wrong about such things (historically, at least), and I only end up making a fool of myself.

Since she and I have been down this road once already, this is sort of my second chance. I'm trying real hard to not make the same mistakes I made last time. Instead, I'm making all new mistakes! I'm really hoping the quote, "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever; if it doesn't, then it was never meant to be." is the truth. She knows how I feel since I'm horrible at hiding things like this. I figure she'll either tell me she feels the same way (if/when she's ready) or she'll tell me to back off. I just have to be patient and make sure I'm not so passive she slips away.

[ebackhus]

Deck, I wish you the best of luck. See this through and invite all of TSF to the wedding!

As for me I'll post the latest in the morning. Not exactly in a chipper mood right now...

[jen56]

Originally Posted by Deckard

My melancholy tone is because I've lost this particular girl before (even let her go, which was hard to do), but she's not the only one I've lost. Furthermore, I am not 100% sure she feels the same way about me anyway. I think she does, but I'm generally wrong about such things (historically, at least), and I only end up making a fool of myself.

Since she and I have been down this road once already, this is sort of my second chance. I'm trying real hard to not make the same mistakes I made last time. Instead, I'm making all new mistakes! I'm really hoping the quote, "If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever; if it doesn't, then it was never meant to be." is the truth. She knows how I feel since I'm horrible at hiding things like this. I figure she'll either tell me she feels the same way (if/when she's ready) or she'll tell me to back off. I just have to be patient and make sure I'm not so passive she slips away.

Deck I promise you that is so true,If you love something let it go. If it comes back to you it's your forever. if it doesn't then it never was.
. I say this as I met chauffeur2 in 1974. Unfortunately I knocked back his proposal, and married another person. This led to a marriage breakup after 28 years..
After waiting 32 years and a bit, chauffeur2 and I married in December 06. That was the best day of my life, and I love Dave totally.
Just try and work through things, and communication is fantastic.
I wish you all the best for the future. It worked out well for me, as I hope it does for you.

[Deckard]

I will see it through, whether it turns out the way I want it to or not. I knew I would the day I first met her.

[hempknight]

KUDOS! thats the spirit Deck...

we'll form a intrepid band of supporters that'll follow you around and say "NO Deck NO! NOOOOO Deck! " when you go to make a mistake with this girl..

XD

the TSFer's over here is AUS will know what i'm on about
Hint: Nicobate Ad..

[Deckard]

You'd be saying "No!" a lot, I'd wager.

[Kalim]

Originally Posted by ebackhus

My problems now! The girl next door seems to be off. Last Friday I invited her over for some sudds and grubs. We popped in Office Space (we both realte well to it) and had some LULZ. About halfway through my neighbor, her ex, came by and asked if I could help him with something. She too got up and followed. I assisted as I could and when all was said and done I wanted to go back. I asked her if she wanted to go back and finish the film. She said she was too tired to even get up again so i just left. Hours later my friend asked if I wanted to jump on WoW. I said sure, despite being exhausted. I logged in and saw that she was also on. Strange. We went and ran an instance well into Saturday morning. Towards then end I simply couldn't keep going. My vision was acting up and I was seeing strange things on my monitor, like people with knives. Totally trippin'. Anyway... I logged out and they stayed on for a few more hours. When I got up the next morning I was rather peeved. I mean, she was too tired to come and watch a movie for a little longer with me but she could stay up playing a game beyond me? WTF? She's always saying that being at her place with my friend causes her stress and when she's at my place she feels relaxed. I really don't know what to make of it.

Though it may seem to you as her fleeing from just you, it's not always the case. When they haven't given thought to something, just been too busy elsewhere or wanted to be left alone or away from a certain "type" of person, they will make strange excuses. Not because they dislike you, but maybe because there's something on their mind...

That's why having different personalities around you helps at different times depending on your mood.

As Iain said, they can be strange with unexplained reasons for such behavior, but tell ya what... it usually means a little confusion and conflict happening in the brain of that person... like figuring out what your feelings towards x and y are or how they felt during that "some" thing that happened with that guy...

I've been totally shattered, left my friends and then came back home to post 40 odd posts here and at 2 other places online. Doesn't mean I lied when I told them I needed some rest back home and I'm exhausted. But when I came, I planned on posting once and then found out 19 others I previously replied to had posted who it'd be better to help out for now and get it over and done with.

Unforseen need. Whether perceived (addiction) or real (as in actually needed)

There's also the syndrome of unforseen mind changes. Being pessimistic will make you shoot yourself a long time before she ever does.

LOL! Like me nephew says, take a chill pill and relax.

[ebackhus]

I dunno... It seems to be getting worse. I'll invite her over to play some yummy Mario Kart 64 (a favorite of hers) and she'll say she can't 'cause her hand hurts. Then she'll stay up playing WoW all night. The way she uses a computer at work all day is WHY her hand hurts!

[Kalim]

Originally Posted by ebackhus

I dunno... It seems to be getting worse. I'll invite her over to play some yummy Mario Kart 64 (a favorite of hers) and she'll say she can't 'cause her hand hurts. Then she'll stay up playing WoW all night. The way she uses a computer at work all day is WHY her hand hurts!

Women.

It might be better in your case to lay low for a while and give it some time and space... usually neutralizes or dilutes any negative views one may hold against another. For the ones who don't "click" on to their feelings, it makes them grow fonder and realize what it means.

I knew what I wanted from day one. It took me 7 months to even get a look back.

[ebackhus]

Only one issue comes to mind with that: sometimes she needs me to pick her up from work during the week.

See, I think she's either REALLY good at pretending not to notice or she simply doesn't. I know that her emotional sensitivity is about as high as it can come. Her empathy is a bit on the lower end, though, so that may account for something.