Stoppin a 15 year old from viewing porn

Richard Laymon · 09-11-2006, 10:37 AM

Probably the wrong place to put this but I can't think where else to put it so here goes:-
Is there a way to stop a 15 year old boy from looking at porn pages on the web. It can be done via I.E. using the Content Advisor but that is a major pain in the butt allowing and disallowing every page/site. This can also be thwarted by simply downloading another browser.
So basically I need a foolproof (yet free) way of stopping him.
Any ideas ?

cjschaf · 09-11-2006, 02:06 PM

There are plenty of programs that will filter the internet content on your PC. Just by doing a quick google search: internet filter, resulted in millions of hits. Pick one of the companies and download the trial and try the software. I would recomend one that either ties into the user accounts on the PC or requires each user to have a user ID and password (this way you will not be filtered, but your son would be).

Some of the software is month to month fees, others are for a one year license. The biggest thing is to find software that you are comfortable using, since you will be the one managing it.

fredmh · 09-11-2006, 06:49 PM

Hello Richard Laymon:

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crazijoe · 09-11-2006, 08:54 PM

Don't take this the wrong way but you probably need to start being more of a parent and watch where your child surfs. Restrict the boy on when he can use the computer or purchase a content filtering software.

**Fox** · 09-11-2006, 09:08 PM

I think everyone may be going about this the wrong way.

Why not sit down with your son and talk man-to-man about what's on the internet, what level of decency you expect him to adhere to- and more importantly, the dangers of putting your personal information on sites like MySpace and Xanga.

At 15, if you expect him to behave like an adult, he's going to expect you to treat him like one. Trust is a two way street.

Geekgirl · 09-11-2006, 09:34 PM

Communication is the best thing that you and your child can have. I understand at that age his hormones are probably running wild but you must sit with your child and talk to them about the dangers on the internet. Not only the smut he is seeing but the dangers of going to these sites will have an immediate impact on your system.
It is you who will have to put a stop to this surfing habit he has obtained, but you must talk to him not scold him. He will respond better if you do not fly off the handle

Chevy · 09-11-2006, 10:14 PM

To simply answer the question at hand:

http://www.cyberpatrol.com/

http://www.cybersitter.com/

One of these combined with some "over the shoulder" observations ought to do it.

Richard Laymon · 09-11-2006, 10:17 PM

Firstly he's not my son, secondly he has about as much respect for any human being as a rabid dog has for water. He will not listen or take note of anything said to him.
We have asked him not to look at anything untoward, he does, wev'e told him look at any of these sites and lose the internet, he looks at these sites, his mother bans him for a day or two, he's back on looking.
The only way I can see is this kind of software that will guarantee he doesn't look.

crazijoe · 09-12-2006, 05:34 AM

Ahh yes...Sounds like you have your hands full there.
Yea.. I hate to say it but your best bet would be to purchase some sort of content filtering software. This would be much more reliable.

http://www.cyberpatrol.com/
http://www.netnanny.com/
http://www.mynabyoo.com/?hop=qualitygds

Geekgirl · 09-12-2006, 07:24 AM

I hear BSafeOnline is good.

cbieger · 09-12-2006, 07:26 AM

Seriously, not to butt in to how you are raising your child, or not your child as you say, but what harm is there in a fifteen year old boy looking at some porn? Is he a pervert or something? Does he go around molesting hamsters? Weren't you fifteen once, don't you remember walking around wishing you had some sort of outlet to control your raging hormones?

All of the methods suggested above will work. If you wanna go hardcore on it, look in to a sonicwall device. If I were you I'd get the poor boy a subscription to Playboy and show him what decent pornography looks like, that way he grows up with a sensible idea of what is acceptable sexually and what's not. I know that a lot of what's out there on the internet is just strange, scary, and wierd, but he's just being a horny 15 year old. Think back about the way you coped with it, and tell me honestly: If the internet had been around WAY back then, wouldn't you had utilized that as a resource?

**Squashman** · 09-12-2006, 09:56 AM

K9 Web Protection
http://www.k9webprotection.com/

I would also use that with a combination of a Porn Proxy Auth Config file. I have that on some of my computers at home. Just the ones that my kids use. My oldest is only 5 but better start now before he accidently stumbles upon something.

You can also setup a Hosts file to block alot of things as well.

Richard Laymon · 09-12-2006, 10:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cbieger

Seriously, not to butt in to how you are raising your child, or not your child as you say, but what harm is there in a fifteen year old boy looking at some porn? Is he a pervert or something? Does he go around molesting hamsters?

What harm is there ? before I came on his mother's scene he was allowed to do whatever he wanted, he smoked, he drank, he swore, he watched porn. He IS on the sex offenders list, it's only a minor offense but he is there. I'm not saying porn helped get him on the list but it certainly put some strange ideas in his head.
Since I came on the scene, he doesn't smoke anywhere near the house, he doesn't drink anywhere near the house, I have curtailed his porn as much as I possibly can but I need to stop it fully without taking the internet off him. His hormones went out of control the day he was born, I am trying to bring them back under some sort of contol.
Does this answer your question ?

**jgvernonco** · 09-12-2006, 10:25 AM

Richard, you are a brave man. Stick to your guns, my friend. It might all be for nothing, but it is much more than nothing for you. In fact, if you didn't do this, you probably couldn't live with yourself.

Do everything you can, including the content blocking software, then take a moment to congratulate yourself for going where many folks would not be willing to go.

Good luck and God speed.

yustr · 09-12-2006, 11:25 AM

Richard, more power to you for trying to steer him back to the main stream. It sounds as if your making some progress. But I can't help but think he's still doing all those things he's just hiding them from you. And that is certainly not what you want.

I was told once that you have to pick your battles when rasing kids. I know I had to think often "Is this issue really the one I want to fall on my sword over?" Most of the time the answer was, no.

One thing you can do is move the computer to the living room. He'll be much less willing to surf sites he knows you don't approve of and you'll be able to "monitor by walking around".

But again, I applaud your stepping up to this big and important challenge.

**40sondacurb** · 09-12-2006, 12:24 PM

Eyes were my biggest deterrent. Just randomly pop into his room while he's on the computer and instruct him not to delete his Internet history and he'll understand that you're watch and won't get blatant about it.

You'll never be able to completely stop him if that's your goal, but you need to make it abundantly clear that you do not approve of it under your roof. If he knows you don't approve he'll censor himself to a degree for fear of reprisal.

You can't teach kids laws, only values.

**johnwill** · 09-12-2006, 05:27 PM

There's an even easier way for most of the time. Move the computer into one of the living areas in plain view of the rest of the family.

ebackhus · 09-12-2006, 07:57 PM

John's suggestion is what my parents did when we were kids.

Also, I can't recommend CyberPatrol. We had that on our PC and it really screwed things up badly.

Volt-Schwibe · 09-13-2006, 12:11 AM

as an alternative option, you could install a vga signal splitter, and then put a second monitor in a neighboring room.

my friend does that to his daughter, and it works, as she never knows if she's being watched or not.

(usually not but she doesn't know that.)

although, it's not her looking at porn he wants to stop... still similar in nature.

Richard Laymon · 09-13-2006, 12:38 AM

I've installed a small program called Net Dog it stops everything except those sites that can be added as clean. It doesn't leave an icon in the TaskBar and doesn't have a Process or application visable in the Task Manager. It's passworded and starts at bootup. I've hidden the program in a home-made Recycle Bin just in case he goes hunting for it in the Program Files folder ;)

09-11-2006, 10:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
Richard Laymon Registered User Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 34 OS: XP Pro	Stoppin a 15 year old from viewing porn Probably the wrong place to put this but I can't think where else to put it so here goes:- Is there a way to stop a 15 year old boy from looking at porn pages on the web. It can be done via I.E. using the Content Advisor but that is a major pain in the butt allowing and disallowing every page/site. This can also be thwarted by simply downloading another browser. So basically I need a foolproof (yet free) way of stopping him. Any ideas ?

09-11-2006, 02:06 PM	#2 (permalink)
cjschaf Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Buffalo Posts: 117 OS: Vista	There are plenty of programs that will filter the internet content on your PC. Just by doing a quick google search: internet filter, resulted in millions of hits. Pick one of the companies and download the trial and try the software. I would recomend one that either ties into the user accounts on the PC or requires each user to have a user ID and password (this way you will not be filtered, but your son would be). Some of the software is month to month fees, others are for a one year license. The biggest thing is to find software that you are comfortable using, since you will be the one managing it. __________________ Chris Schafer

09-11-2006, 08:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
crazijoe Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Omaha, The Center of the Universe Posts: 7,632 OS: WinXP, Win2K3 My System	Don't take this the wrong way but you probably need to start being more of a parent and watch where your child surfs. Restrict the boy on when he can use the computer or purchase a content filtering software. __________________ Microsoft MCSA + Messaging, MVP, A+, Network+ http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b3...other/Help.jpg Do you want a real Republican? HDD diagnostic tools / HDD data recovery software

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Fox TSF Enthusiast Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: NJ Posts: 7,752 OS: XP Pro, CentOS My System	I think everyone may be going about this the wrong way. Why not sit down with your son and talk man-to-man about what's on the internet, what level of decency you expect him to adhere to- and more importantly, the dangers of putting your personal information on sites like MySpace and Xanga. At 15, if you expect him to behave like an adult, he's going to expect you to treat him like one. Trust is a two way street. __________________ Antec Neo Power 500W, ABIT IP35-E, Intel E2180@2.66Ghz, Corsair XMS2 2x1GB DDR2-800, PNY 8800GT, 320GB Seagate * lazy college student alert *- If I've inadvertently ignored a thread, please Let me know about it Have I helped you solve your problem? Donate to Techsupportforums Klart Skepp!

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Geekgirl Assistant Manager, Microsoft Support Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Six-burgh, Pennsylvania Posts: 14,171 OS: XP Home SP3/XP Pro SP3/Vista Ultimate SP2/Windows 7 Professional	Communication is the best thing that you and your child can have. I understand at that age his hormones are probably running wild but you must sit with your child and talk to them about the dangers on the internet. Not only the smut he is seeing but the dangers of going to these sites will have an immediate impact on your system. It is you who will have to put a stop to this surfing habit he has obtained, but you must talk to him not scold him. He will respond better if you do not fly off the handle __________________ Compare NOD32 to your current antivirus and anti-spyware solution, HERE How to back up and restore the registry in Windows XP and Windows Vista Or Windows 7 How to back up and restore the registry in Windows 98/ ME / NT 4.0 / 2000 I DO NOT ACCEPT EMAILS AND WILL NOT REPLY TO THEM !!!!! TSF DOES NOT SUPPORT ASSISTANCE THROUGH EMAIL OR PRIVATE MESSAGES, PLEASE KEEP ALL QUESTIONS IN THE OPEN FORUM *The Pittsburgh Steelers - 6 X Superbowl Champions !!!!!!!* *The Pittsburgh Penguins - 2009 Stanley Cup Champions !!!!!!!*

09-11-2006, 06:49 PM	#3 (permalink)
fredmh Analyst, Security Team ; TSF Supporter Join Date: May 2006 Location: Phila,Pa Posts: 2,335 OS: XP	Hello Richard Laymon: By viewing thee sites, your computer is vunerable to the introduction of malware and viruses. I would advise you to look over this post and if you feel the the need, post a log in the HJT forum. Please read this thread Please download HijackThis . This program will help us determine if there are any spyware/malware on your computer. Double-click on the file you just downloaded. Click on the "Unzip" button to install. It will by default install to the directory - C:\PROGRAM FILES\HIJACKTHIS\ Run a scan and save the log file. Do not fix anything in HijackThis since they may be harmless. Make sure to include the System information at the top of the log as well. Post your HJT log in HJT Log Help Forum and an analyst will help you.

09-11-2006, 10:14 PM	#7 (permalink)
Chevy Retired Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Notlob Posts: 5,452 OS: Vista Ultimate My System	To simply answer the question at hand: http://www.cyberpatrol.com/ http://www.cybersitter.com/ One of these combined with some "over the shoulder" observations ought to do it.

09-11-2006, 10:17 PM	#8 (permalink)
Richard Laymon Registered User Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 34 OS: XP Pro	Firstly he's not my son, secondly he has about as much respect for any human being as a rabid dog has for water. He will not listen or take note of anything said to him. We have asked him not to look at anything untoward, he does, wev'e told him look at any of these sites and lose the internet, he looks at these sites, his mother bans him for a day or two, he's back on looking. The only way I can see is this kind of software that will guarantee he doesn't look.

09-12-2006, 05:34 AM	#9 (permalink)
crazijoe Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Omaha, The Center of the Universe Posts: 7,632 OS: WinXP, Win2K3 My System	Ahh yes...Sounds like you have your hands full there. Yea.. I hate to say it but your best bet would be to purchase some sort of content filtering software. This would be much more reliable. http://www.cyberpatrol.com/ http://www.netnanny.com/ http://www.mynabyoo.com/?hop=qualitygds __________________ Microsoft MCSA + Messaging, MVP, A+, Network+ http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b3...other/Help.jpg Do you want a real Republican? HDD diagnostic tools / HDD data recovery software

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Geekgirl Assistant Manager, Microsoft Support Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Six-burgh, Pennsylvania Posts: 14,171 OS: XP Home SP3/XP Pro SP3/Vista Ultimate SP2/Windows 7 Professional	I hear BSafeOnline is good. __________________ Compare NOD32 to your current antivirus and anti-spyware solution, HERE How to back up and restore the registry in Windows XP and Windows Vista Or Windows 7 How to back up and restore the registry in Windows 98/ ME / NT 4.0 / 2000 I DO NOT ACCEPT EMAILS AND WILL NOT REPLY TO THEM !!!!! TSF DOES NOT SUPPORT ASSISTANCE THROUGH EMAIL OR PRIVATE MESSAGES, PLEASE KEEP ALL QUESTIONS IN THE OPEN FORUM *The Pittsburgh Steelers - 6 X Superbowl Champions !!!!!!!* *The Pittsburgh Penguins - 2009 Stanley Cup Champions !!!!!!!*

09-12-2006, 07:26 AM	#11 (permalink)
cbieger Registered User Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 57 OS: Windows XP My System	Seriously, not to butt in to how you are raising your child, or not your child as you say, but what harm is there in a fifteen year old boy looking at some porn? Is he a pervert or something? Does he go around molesting hamsters? Weren't you fifteen once, don't you remember walking around wishing you had some sort of outlet to control your raging hormones? All of the methods suggested above will work. If you wanna go hardcore on it, look in to a sonicwall device. If I were you I'd get the poor boy a subscription to Playboy and show him what decent pornography looks like, that way he grows up with a sensible idea of what is acceptable sexually and what's not. I know that a lot of what's out there on the internet is just strange, scary, and wierd, but he's just being a horny 15 year old. Think back about the way you coped with it, and tell me honestly: If the internet had been around WAY back then, wouldn't you had utilized that as a resource?

09-12-2006, 09:56 AM	#12 (permalink)
Squashman Tech, Networking Forums Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: 1265 Lombardi Ave. Posts: 1,142 OS: All of the above	K9 Web Protection http://www.k9webprotection.com/ I would also use that with a combination of a Porn Proxy Auth Config file. I have that on some of my computers at home. Just the ones that my kids use. My oldest is only 5 but better start now before he accidently stumbles upon something. You can also setup a Hosts file to block alot of things as well. Last edited by Squashman; 09-12-2006 at 09:58 AM.

09-12-2006, 10:25 AM	#14 (permalink)
jgvernonco Old Timer Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Northern Arizona Posts: 7,958 OS: Vista Home Premium, SP 27	Richard, you are a brave man. Stick to your guns, my friend. It might all be for nothing, but it is much more than nothing for you. In fact, if you didn't do this, you probably couldn't live with yourself. Do everything you can, including the content blocking software, then take a moment to congratulate yourself for going where many folks would not be willing to go. Good luck and God speed. __________________ Donations keep TSF moving forward. Please help. http://www.myspace.com/speedbumpthecelt

09-12-2006, 11:25 AM	#15 (permalink)
yustr Asst. Manager, The Conversation Pit Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Connecticut shore Posts: 6,049 OS: XP Pro My System	Richard, more power to you for trying to steer him back to the main stream. It sounds as if your making some progress. But I can't help but think he's still doing all those things he's just hiding them from you. And that is certainly not what you want. I was told once that you have to pick your battles when rasing kids. I know I had to think often "Is this issue really the one I want to fall on my sword over?" Most of the time the answer was, no. One thing you can do is move the computer to the living room. He'll be much less willing to surf sites he knows you don't approve of and you'll be able to "monitor by walking around". But again, I applaud your stepping up to this big and important challenge. __________________ If there are lawyers or politicians involved, logic may be a very poor tool for reaching a conclusion.

09-12-2006, 12:24 PM	#16 (permalink)
40sondacurb Don't be a menace Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6,285 OS: Vista sp2	Eyes were my biggest deterrent. Just randomly pop into his room while he's on the computer and instruct him not to delete his Internet history and he'll understand that you're watch and won't get blatant about it. You'll never be able to completely stop him if that's your goal, but you need to make it abundantly clear that you do not approve of it under your roof. If he knows you don't approve he'll censor himself to a degree for fear of reprisal. You can't teach kids laws, only values. __________________ Donate to keep the forum running Last edited by 40sondacurb; 09-12-2006 at 12:25 PM.

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09-13-2006, 12:38 AM	#20 (permalink)
Richard Laymon Registered User Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 34 OS: XP Pro	I've installed a small program called Net Dog it stops everything except those sites that can be added as clean. It doesn't leave an icon in the TaskBar and doesn't have a Process or application visable in the Task Manager. It's passworded and starts at bootup. I've hidden the program in a home-made Recycle Bin just in case he goes hunting for it in the Program Files folder ;)