I must be the 1st person who keeps replying to his own post

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But here is what I have done while waiting for someone to reply to my dilemma.......in Tools/Add-ons within IE i have disabled all but the most crucial add-ons. Hopefully that will fix my problem of iexplore.exe opening often as a process upon login (without the IE window opening with it) or running still as a process even after I close IE.
Will report back in 24 hours about the success of disabling 50% of the add-ons.